As the theme of December’s GLAM Blog Club is End these are the top three things I’ll be ending in 2019. Sometimes you have to quit things that aren’t working or habits that don’t help you in order to be a happier librarian!
1. Volunteering for causes I’m not passionate about: A happier librarian values her time and knows that happiness comes from doing what you love not what you think you should do. I am passionate about libraries, mental health, being an ally for First Nations people and LGBTIQ advocacy. I am not passionate about chairing meetings, writing minutes, strategic plans or policy talk so I need to be honest about how I spend my spare time and what I do with my energies.
2. Reading finance books by middle aged men: What is it with young women and The Barefoot Investor? He’s a smug middle aged, married guy. He knows nothing about being a young, single woman! I’m not reading any more patronising, assuming finance books by men who don’t understand women generally earn less than them, have half the amount in their super and are much less likely to be in leadership roles (or have leadership salaries).
If you want financial advice for women try reading Emily Power’s How To Buy A Home, Cosmopolitan magazine or ask me! I bought my first home in Sydney at 27, I have a budget and make voluntary contributions to my super, I’ve never had a credit card, I paid off all my HELP debt, I have a savings account, an emergency fund and an every day bank account. And although I earn less than $80 000 a year I can still save enough to travel overseas every 12 months and to treat myself to brunch once a week. This happier librarian handles finance #likeaboss! Do I really need to read about it?
3. Comparing myself to other people: I have a friend who is very beautiful, talented and accomplished. Every time I see her I start to shrink inside. The same thing happens when I scroll travel bloggers on Instagram. I feel ugly, stupid and worthless.
Happiness theorists say that comparing ourselves to others is one of the main causes of unhappiness. As Sarah Knight says in her book of the same name, “you do you“. Don’t worry about what other people are achieving or how fabulous they look – focus on being the best you you can be. And this will help you to be a better friend too.
I really hope I can end these three habits for a happier 2019. It won’t be easy but my status as a happier librarian depends on it! What will you end next year?